Lately when my youngest son gets in trouble for making a poor choice he will say "I am stupid!" It just breaks my heart to hear him say this about himself. I reassure him he is not stupid, in fact he is actually very smart, but that he just made a bad choice. We always talk about what we could have done differently. I think this is a result of the guilt he feels over not being able to control his impulsivity and he has reasoned that if he can't control himself, he must just be stupid. I am not sure where this has come from, but I don't much care for it and I am trying to figure out how to help change his negative self talk.
I guess it is time to bump a few of the books up on my reading list... "The Gift of ADHD" and "Superparenting for ADD" Both of these books approach it from the positive side and talk about focusing on their strengths. Hopefully I can find some pratical things that we can do to help him see his ADHD as a gift instead of a problem.